I will be honest and say that it has been tough. There have been ups and downs. We have had to learn to communicate, trust, believe, be patient (more me than him) and so much more.
Our time together is always wonderful and while we are apart we have had to explore different ways of communicating. When you only talk on the phone we found it difficult to get into really in depth conversations every day. When you live together (which we never have) I think you communicate differently. You are able to talk about your day, current news and issues. So we had to find a way to do that being apart.
About 2 years ago we bought the book "All About Us" and agreed to do the book together, filling sections out and mailing the book back and forth. If you aren't familiar with the book, basically each person answers questions about hopes, dreams, sex, daily routines and more. You have to promise to be open and honest and not hold back.
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Here are some of the questions they ask:
Some of the questions we made up were:
What have you and your fiancee done to keep the communicating fresh and alive?
- As a teenager what was the most surprising thing about being in love?
- 3 things you dislike about being in a relationship
- What caused your worst hangover?
- What is the 1st thing you noticed about your partner when you met?
- Yes or No...love is a battlefield
- An unusual place where you and your partner have made love
- Something you are now prepared to reveal to your partner
- Someone who might have been the perfect mate for you but was already taken
Some of the questions we made up were:
- What frustrates you the most about your sister?
- If you could live anywhere in the world where would you want to live? and why?
- If you were to wake up and be in a bad mood what song do you think would turn your mood around?
- If you were going to work for any charity/humanitarian effort what cause would you choose?
- If we get married next year...ideally when do you want to start a family?
What have you and your fiancee done to keep the communicating fresh and alive?
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